Fatherhood Is...

- Checking every nook and cranny for monsters, at bedtime. And then checking again, just to make sure. 

- Putting together a unicorn spotting kit and then going into the backyard for an hour, waiting for a unicorn to pass by your fig tree.

- Wondering how you're going to be a good dad, when your dad was horrible. Hard to be it when you can't see it.

- Doing a lot of internal work because your child is depending on you to be and do your best. 

- (Trying to) not take it personally when your child favors their mother.

- Knowing that there will be a cuddle parent and a play parent. More than likely, you'll be the play parent for a very long time. But eventually understanding that these roles are fluid. 

- Reaching out to the single fathers you know and including them in group events. 

- Not falling asleep until your child does. 

- Knowing that you will disappoint and hurt your child, but also knowing that you can repair the relationship. 

- Answering their toy phone and having an in depth conversation with the rabbit who wants to sell you a meteor and a shovel. 

- Going into your child's room at night and counting their fingers and toes. Every night. For their first 6th months. 

- Imagining the kind of person your child will be in their 20s, 30s, 40s--and hoping that you'll live that long to see if you're correct. 

- Crying while you draft your will. 

- Making sure your child has it much better than you did.

- Getting back into shape because you have to keep up with your child. 

- Playing Sketches of Spain for your 2 month old.

- Balancing parenthood and partnership. Yeah. Like this is easy. 

- The best thing in the whole damn world.